Did you know that the happiest couples in America are having sex about once a week and if couples have sex less than once a week, they feel less fulfilled in their relationship? How many times are you having sex? And would you like to be having more of it?
If you would like to boost your sex life, consider following the 7 tips laid out below to enhance your sexual health and in turn, your relationship’s sexual quotient.
1. Communicate More
When was the last time you had a conversation with your partner about your sexual habits? Too many of us are so afraid and ashamed of sex and anything related to it, that we relegate it to a tiny corner of our lives, never to be spoken about.
Don’t do that. Set up some time and start talking about sex regularly. It’s not enough to have a one-off conversation and think everything’s dandy. In fact, as you and your partner grow and your relationship changes, your sexual habits, needs, and desires will change as well.
If you don’t talk about it, you won’t know what your partner wants or needs and your partner won’t know about your needs and desires. It’s going to result in a whole lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding.
Avoid all that by talking about sex regularly. Once a week or once a month, sit down in a relaxed way and open up about what ails you about your sexual life. If you don’t do it in a calm scheduled manner, you can bet it will come out in a fight or argument in a detrimental fashion.
2. Exercise Regularly
You already know the myriad benefits of exercising. There’s no need to harp on about it, you might think. But there is. Not only does regular physical movement enhance your mental and physical health, but it improves your sexual health as well.
It can increase your libido and help you feel juicier when the time comes. Also, it will make you more confident in the bedroom and allow you to initiate all sorts of interesting experimental positions.
Many people shy away from having sex regularly because they are tired and also self-conscious about their bodies. Exercise can help on both counts. It can give you the energy you desire to keep going all night long. And it will get you toned and ready to walk around naked in the bedroom, no holds barred.
3. Stay Curious and Experiment
One of the problems with being an adult is that we get busy with survival tasks and forget to stay curious about the world surrounding us. When was the last time you introduced a new sexual position in the bedroom for you and your partner to try out? When was the last time you tried something out of the box, something out of your comfort zone?
If it’s been a while, then change that unhealthy habit. You can’t wait for your partner to do all the heavy lifting. Start becoming curious about sex in a playful kind of way. Start reading up on different sexual positions to try and also learn more about your own body and what governs its sexual reactions.
You can also try something like rimming (read this article to learn more about it) and bring anal play into your bedroom. Even if it scares you, you will never know how it feels until you try it out. If you don’t like it, you can always toss it out. But you gotta try everything at least once, right?
4. Eat a Healthy Diet
This goes along with the exercising tip. Better sexual performance isn’t just related to trying out new things in the bedroom. It’s also highly related to what you do outside the bedroom.
Are you spending your days sitting at a desk working away, without taking a single break? Do you stuff yourself with potato chips and coffee all day long and then wonder why you are so sluggish all the time?
If you are not going to take care of your dietary habits, it will show up in your reduced libido and your diminished desire to have sex. Start eating more green leafy vegetables, fish, and reduce the amount of red meat in your diet to notice how it changes up things in the bedroom as well.
5. Reduce Stress
Are you so stressed out by work, life, and all the other related items that you can’t even concentrate on the sexual act when you are in it? Are you thinking about your to-do list and what you are going to do after you are done with your ‘martial duties’?
Too many Americans are spending less time having sex and more time stressing out about surviving from one day to the next. It might be financial worries or worries about your children’s education. Whatever stressed you out, consider that half an hour or an hour of fun in the bedroom isn’t going to negate it.
In fact, you can come back to your worries once you let out a little steam in the bedroom. But consider your bedroom as a sort of a panacea, a place where you can leave all your worries behind, at least for a bit.
Also, consider taking measures to reduce your stress in general. Not only is all this stress killing you slowly, but it’s reducing your verve for life. Start meditating with an app like Calm, or bring in some essential oils like Lavender to reduce anxiety and stress levels.
If it’s financial worries that ail you, then consider building a budget, or talking to a financial advisor to heal your finances and gain back control. Start paying off that debt and stop spending so much money on unnecessary items.
Do what you can to reduce stress in your life and come back to a place of peace and serenity.
6. Stop Smoking
If you are a smoker, you are probably tired of hearing people telling you to quit. It’s understandable. But if you wish to boost your sex life and increase your sexual performance in the bedroom, you need to quit your addictive habits.
This includes any OTC drugs, caffeine, alcohol, and of course, tobacco. All of these add lots of unnecessary chemicals and toxins into the body that your body has to work really hard to eliminate. Once it’s done all that elimination, it hardly has any energy for romps in the bedroom.
You have probably already heard that smoking can cause erectile dysfunction in men. That’s just one of the many harmful effects it has on the human body. It can also result in decreased libido in both sexes and reduced fertility.
If you wish to live a long, happy, and healthy life with lots of great sex, the first thing you need to do is eliminate these negative addictions from your life. You might imagine that you can’t quit, but there are many resources online and offline to help you quit. Get started today and your body and sex life will thank you.
7. Schedule in Adult Playtime
Do you feel anxiety whenever you think about having sex with your partner? Is it something that worries or annoys you? Are you worried about sexual performance in the bedroom and that deters your enthusiasm for your sexual life?
Whatever your hangups might be about sex, you need to start thinking and talking about them with your partner and start thinking of sexy time as fun and playtime. It isn’t supposed to be an arduous task. It’s not about pushing yourself or forcing yourself to ‘endure’. This isn’t the 18th century anymore.
Change your mindset about sex in general. It isn’t something you are doing to please your partner or to procreate. You are doing it for the sheer pleasure of having sex and for connecting at a deeper, more intimate level with your partner.
It’s about showing your partner how much you love them and allowing them to show the same back to you. Stop making it such a dreadful thing, ease up the immense pressure that you are putting on yourself, and have fun with it.
Also, if you and your partner are busy professionals, consider scheduling regular playtime into your calendar, so you never miss it. It’s easy to push off having sex when you have so many things on your plate. But having a regular sex life is as important to your health as eating a healthy diet or exercising. Don’t dismiss its importance!
Boost Your Sex Life by Making It a Priority
Now that you have the 7 tips above to boost your sex life, start including these healthy habits into your daily schedule. Make them a priority. Don’t forget that more fulfilled couples have sex regularly and if you wish to enhance your relationship with your partner, you need to work at it. It won’t happen automatically or on its own.
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